Happy (?) Holidays - Navigating Depression, Financial Struggles, Loneliness, and Loss During Christmas

The holiday season is often painted as a picture-perfect scene filled with joy, love, and togetherness. However, for many, this time of year can stir up feelings of sadness, isolation, and anxiety. It's crucial to recognize that not everyone shares the same joyful experiences during Christmas. With the rise in cost of living, and increased numbers of split families, there are a number of challenges that more individuals than ever before are facing.

The Weight of Expectation - Emotions and Finances

Many people feel immense pressure to display joy during the holidays. This expectation can create feelings of inadequacy and sadness. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, feelings of depression can surge during this season due to societal pressures to appear cheerful, create elaborate displays of festivities, and provide the perfect gifts for loved ones. The reality is that many people are living paycheck to paycheck and the holidays creates a stressful addition to current burdens. The concept of giving the perfect gift to each person in one's life equals to the amount they matter is materialistic and supported through our increasing need for instant gratification.

To manage the financial burdens during Christmas:

• Set Realistic Budgets: Create a spending plan before the holiday rush. Assign specific amounts for gifts, food, and activities.

• Avoid exceeding this budget to help curb stress.

• Get Creative with Gifts: Handmade presents or small gestures can convey love without breaking the bank. For instance, a heartfelt letter or homemade cookies can often mean more than an expensive gift.

• Communicate with Loved Ones: Be open with family and friends about your financial situation. Most people will be understanding, easing the pressure to spend.

• Set Boundaries: It's ok to tell individuals, especially those outside your immediate circle, that you're not participating in gift giving or holiday activities. While it might feel like you're being a Scrooge, with so many others finding themselves in the same predicament, they will understand. If they don't, that's on them to figure out. You are not responsible for their expectations. You can still be kind and cheerful without having to dip into your livelihood.

Battling Loneliness & Grief During the Holidays

Many experience intensified feelings of loneliness during the holiday season, especially if they are far from family or have lost loved ones. The first Christmas without a loved one can be particularly tough. The absence can feel even deeper amid holiday celebrations, especially as reminiscing takes place, or when one sees something that reminds them of their loved ones. It is important not to push down any feelings of grief. Trying to avoid them may work in the short term but will eventually catch up and become more intensified.

Strategies to cope with loneliness include:

• Limit Exposure to Triggers: If specific events or gatherings increase your feelings of sadness, set boundaries. Decide which parties to attend or which traditions to maintain.

• Reach Out: Connect with friends or family through calls or video chats. Even a brief conversation can help lift spirits and reduce feelings of isolation.

• Volunteer: Giving back can provide a sense of purpose. Look for local shelters or community centers needing assistance. Many families have found joy by helping serve meals or running community events during this time.

• Engage with Local Community Events: Attend local holiday activities, even if alone. This can help distract from loneliness and might open the door to new friendships.

• Create New Traditions: Develop traditions that honor the memory of your lost loved one. This could involve lighting a candle in their memory or sharing their favorite holiday story with family.

• Connect with Support Groups: Seek out groups—either online or in-person—where individuals share similar experiences. This connection can provide comfort and understanding.

  
  

When Suicidal Thoughts Arrive

Suicide rates are highest around the holidays. It makes sense given how we are bombarded with images of families together, laughter and happiness, generous gifts and immense amounts of food. Those that are not fortunate enough to have these luxeries are reminded about their state of misfortunate and can make them feel even worse about themselves. Humans are social beings, so when we feel there is no one for us to connect with, especially at a time when everyone is expected to have someone and somewhere to go, it can feel particularly lonely. Some people feel the only way to escape this loneliness is ending their life. This is when it's most important to check in on people you know that might not have a place to go. The actual spirit of Christmas is to be kind to those in need. These are the ones that need it the most.

If you're experiencing thoughts of depression and suicide, please consider the following strategies:

• Focus on Self-Care: Make time for self-care activities that bring you joy and comfort. This could include reading, cooking your favorite meal, or enjoying a soothing bath. Even 15-30 minutes a day dedicated to self-care can make a difference.

• Connect with Support Groups: There are many others that are feeling similar things as you, connecting with them can help you find like-minded individuals and you can help each other.

• Connect with Loved Ones: TELL PEOPLE HOW YOU'RE FEELING. This is so important. People that care about you do not want you to suffer. Let them help you and accept that help.

• Get Help: You are just as important as anyone else. If you are feeling suicidal, contact a counsellor or outreach program and speak to someone. We talked in the last section about grieving during the holidays, succumbing to suicide means that someone else will have to grieve your loss before they were meant to.

Navigating Holiday Emotions

The holiday season can pose challenges for many. Recognizing and addressing feelings of depression, financial pressures, loneliness, increased suicide rates, and the impact of loss is crucial for maintaining mental health.

By practicing self-care, setting realistic expectations, reaching out for support, and honoring loved ones who have passed on, individuals can find ways to cope with the emotional turmoil of this season. Remember, asking for help is okay, and prioritizing mental well-being is essential during what can feel like an overwhelming time. Embrace the complexity of your feelings; you are not alone in this journey.